I remember vaguely being told that the waltz rhythm could be described as ‘Quick, Quick, Slow’. How this was meant to help me dance I don’t know; it didn’t. But I digress.
Today I came across a verse that described the rhythm of discipleship as ‘Quick, Slow, Slow’.
My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this:
everyone should be quick to listen,
slow to speak
and slow to become angry
Why does James, perhaps the practical of the New Testament writers, describe the rhythm of discipleship in this way?
Being quick to listen and slow to speak is about relating to others. It is about valuing the other person and believing that they have something interesting and valuable to share.
The great danger in the life of a disciple of Jesus is that as we learn more through our study and experience, we know quite rightly that we have more and more ‘good stuff’ in our heads that we can share with others which might actually be a blessing and a help to them.
Indeed, it would not be kind nor Christian to refuse to share the good things we have received from God.
But our sharing is only valuable and useful to the degree that it speaks into the situation and needs of our friends and that is something that can only be determined through listening.
So there is a paradox here; the more you have to share, the more listening and not speaking becomes important.
We need to explore by active listening where our friend is, what they are going through, where God may be working in their lives, and it is only when we have developed an understanding of them and their situation, that we can start to think about what might be helpful and appropriate for us to share with them.
So if we can understand why we need to be quick to listen and slow to speak, what about being slow to become angry?
We know that anger is a valid emotion sometimes, we are right to get angry at some things. Jesus Himself got angry on occasion. Perhaps the most famous example of that was when he visited the temple at Jerusalem and found that the Court of the Gentiles – the only space in the temple to which women and non-Jews had access – far from being a quiet and holy place for prayer, had become a noisy marketplace where unscrupulous traders short-changed pilgrims. Jesus was so angry about this that he overturned the stalls and chased the traders out with a whip.
So if anger can be valid and appropriate why does James say we should be slow to become angry?
Perhaps it is because anger can have very many causes, and for many of us most of the time our feelings of anger will have little to do with righteousness.
James indicates his rationale about anger in the next verse when he goes on to say;
because human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires.
James reminds us that anger often leads to conduct that we later regret. We shout, we swear, we insult, we demean, we wound with our words, or even our fists. None of which is helpful in building up a Christian community.
Perhaps it is here the greatest danger in anger – it often destroys relationships. Once we get angry with someone – for whatever reason – it can create a barrier in our relationship with them and it can be a long and very slow path back to mutual forgiveness and restoration.
For this reason anger is a dangerous emotion within a Christian community and we should reflect very carefully on the reason for our anger, and whether it is justified and righteous, or merely the expression of our human frailty and imperfection. Slowness in getting angry will save us a lot of heartache and prevent a lot of harm.
So I think we should all learn to dance the discipleship dance – Quick, Slow, Slow.
God help us all.
 James 1 :19, NIVUK
 James 1 :20 NIVUK